Why Use Sex Toys?Men and women from all walks of life, irrespective of age, colour or size have been using items to enhance the masturbation experience for centuries. Even as far back as the dark ages sex toy materials were composed of all types of materials. Things like bananas, polished wooden objects and even objects around the home were used by women as sex toys to penetrate the vagina. Men were mostly limited to their fingers and hands for masturbation until the introduction of latex rubber and new moulding techniques a while ago.

Today sex toys are an acceptable way to spice up your sex life and many single people choose to practice safe sex on their own, using sex toys. A sextoy isn't just for single people alone or for those who can't get a partner, a very large number of sexually active men and women use sex toys alone and together for masturbation. A sextoy can often put a little bit of sparkle back into a couples sex life that has become a little stale. In countless numbers of studies it has shown that a large percentage of women are unable to experience orgasm during sex without additional stimulation of the clitoris. Vibrators and clitoral stimulators can help and make a big difference to a womens satisfaction during sex.

First of all, lets dismiss the myth that people who use sex toys are dirty minded individuals who obviously are perverted and sad, that dont have much of a sex life. Incredibly, the type of people who hold this view are usually those who have a boring or non-exsistent sex life. Over the past few years or so its a proven fact that the use of sex toys has risen dramatically, mainly because, so the studies say, we are becoming much more liberal in our views on sex, but more importantly perhaps is the fact that the range of high tech sex toys now available has provided enormous additional pleasure during sex. It is important to note the words `additional pleasure.

Most couples buy sex toys to give additional pleasure in the bedroom, this is the way it should be, sex toys are not designed simply for solo use or as a substitute for sex they are there as an additional pleasure aid.

However, it is important to say here that there is no right or wrong where using sex toys are concerned. It is purely a matter of individual taste. In many relationships it is common to find that one enjoys sex toys, whereas their partner prefers not to use them. Studies have shown that more men want to use them than women. Yes true. Although a little hard to believe perhaps, it is a fact that more men have the need to have sex toys in their lives than women. This fact may be a little easier to digest when you consider that women are very much more emotional than men, so when it comes down to the intimate suggestion of introducing a plastic object to provide pleasure for the woman, many women get repulsed by the thought of it. However, these same women who for one reason or another may change their views as they get older, when trying a vibrator for the first time find fantastic pleasure and then regret the fact they have not used one earlier in their life!

The biggest single question we are always being asked is how can I get my partner to agree to using sex toys during our lovemaking. There is unfortunately no easy answer to this question.

There is one thing that must always be remembered, for anything to be pleasurable it must not be forced upon someone. So never consider the forceable approach, if your partner is adamant they want nothing to do with sex toys you will have to leave it there. Strangely however, adamant does not mean no. Let us explain, in our experience many customers have discovered that whilst their partner initially said no to sex toys, it was not because they were repulsed by them it was simply because they were embarrassed to say yes because they worried what their partner would think.

Many men and women do want to try sex toys but are afraid to admit this to their partner for fear of being looked upon as weird or perverted.

The best way to approach introducing sex toys into your sex life is to discuss it first with your partner. Ok so here is problem number one. You find it difficult to discuss such an intimate thing with your partner? If this is the case, you may have a problem that needs professional advice because if you are not able to discuss pleasure with your partner, it could be you are with the wrong person. Whilst this may sound harsh on the face of it, it could be true, even if you have been with your partner for many years. By all means try introducing a sex toy into your relationship without first discussing it, but be prepared for the negative response.

It is best to talk to your partner first, suggest it in a `matter of fact way` without putting pressure on your partner, something like "I saw a vibrator in a magazine the other day, it was something called a rabbit vibrator, I was thinking as a bit of fun to get one what do you think?" You will then get a response either favourable or negative. At least you have a starting point. You might like to say the same thing to your partner but in a third party way, in other words, "A group of friends at work today were talking about something called a rabbit vibrator, I was thinking as a bit of fun to get one to see what it is like, what do you think?"

Whatever the response from your partner you have at the very least started a possible discussion. If its positive, then buy one. If its negative, ask your partner why. Obviously, we can only give limited guidance to this point as it very much depends on what the response is, the answers to every question your partner comes up with will be varied and we don’t have the space here to cover every response. Hopefully however, this information will help you to break the ice.

Assuming you get a favourable response along the lines of "I dont mind giving it a try etc" you then need to consider where to buy your sex toy, and which toys to buy if your not sure then perhaps this book will help Toygasm